1 Grrl's Quest:Being The Best Bond Grrl I Can Be

Is changing a tire part of being a Bond Grrl????

Cause if so I wont be a Bond Grrl!! If you get to know me really well you would figure out that I am the biggest "nerd" ever. Not the book smart kind either! Yesterday, my James was changing his car tires and I offered to help (he's very capable & I wanted to show him the Strong Bond Grrl side of me). So, I watched him change two tires and I was ready to go. He jacked the car up for me and I preceded to loosen a nut? bolt? one of those things, but it was on very tight. He offered to loosen them up but I refused to let him. I felt like I go to the gym pumpin' iron 4 days a week I should be able to do this. LONG STORY SHORT. I cut my hand on the tire rim and now I have two stitches in my hand!! Man did that shhh hurt. I had to sit in the emergency room for about 5 hours and my James said something to totally P'ed me off', "Baby just stay sexy I don't want you masculine too." F--- you!!
It was kinda funny when it happen cause I wouldn't let anyone see it and I was running around the house laughing and crying. You had to have been there:-)

Lesson learned... As long as there are men in the world I don't need to know how to change a tire.

~Mica~

posted by Mica @ 9:20 AM 2 comments

Happy Juneteenth Day!!!

Though the Emancipation Proclamation had taken effect on January 1, 1863, it had little immediate effect on most slaves' day-to-day lives, particularly in Texas, which was almost entirely under Confederate control. Juneteenth commemorates June 19, 1865, the day Union General Gordon Granger and 2,000 federal troops arrived on Galveston Island to take possession of the state and enforce slaves' new freedoms. Standing on the balcony of Galveston's Ashton Villa, Granger read the contents of "General Order No. 3":

The people of Texas are informed that, in accordance with a proclamation from the Executive of the United States, all slaves are free. This involves an absolute equality of personal rights and rights of property between former masters and slaves, and the connection heretofore existing between them becomes that between employer and hired labor. The freedmen are advised to remain quietly at their present homes and work for wages. They are informed that they will not be allowed to collect at military posts and that they will not be supported in idleness either there or elsewhere.


Today Juneteenth commemorates African American freedom and emphasizes education and achievement. It is a day, a week, and in some areas a month marked with celebrations, guest speakers, picnics and family gatherings. It is a time for reflection and rejoicing. It is a time for assessment, self-improvement and for planning the future. Its growing popularity signifies a level of maturity and dignity in America long over due. In cities across the country, people of all races, nationalities and religions are joining hands to truthfully acknowledge a period in our history that shaped and continues to influence our society today. Sensitized to the conditions and experiences of others, only then can we make significant and lasting improvements in our society.

posted by Mica @ 4:59 PM 1 comments

Random Thoughts

With Father's Day being yesterday, Happy Belated Father's Day to all the fathers.. Since I don't know my pops and Badydoll's father is a LOSER and I was too broke to get my James a gift I wasn't too much into the day. I didn't see him till the evening and we watched the Miami vs Dallas game; I did get him a card and a Father's Day picture frame with two pictures of him and his sons in it. I kinda felt bad about not getting him something but he knows I'm broke, I mean between blessings. I couldn't even afford a $30 polo, and my sister and brother wouldn't give me any money to buy one for him. They said that if he wanted something he shoulda given me some money... And on him giving me money. I'm just about living from pay check to pay check. I'm getting a percentage taken out and put in a savings account, but other than that I sometimes don't have enough money left over till my next pay. Which brings me to my issue. I need my James to start helping me out with some of my expenses and I need to know how to tell him without an argument. We usually had one when we used to talk about money. I don't talk about it anymore. He doesn't think that he should have to "help out" women he date, it's not "his place", he don't either. You would think that he sees the woman he loves refrigerator empty or her riding on E in the car he would feel compelled to help a sista out. That's not the case with this cheap man. Besides the usual pay for movie, dinner and/or occasional outfit, I can't get him to come out of his pockets for nothing. Now he says that he would provide for his "wife" but I feel like you got me playin' "wife" layin' up in my bed, eatin' the lil food I prepare and driving just as much as your a$$. Why not me it not like I'masking you to pay rent (whick he has) or NIPSCO or nothing. (Excuse me I was venting :-P) But he and I gotta rediscuss money issues soon.

Anyway... I have (had) a crush on a guy at the gym. He's in shape (of course) and a cutie. YOU know I wouldn't pursue anything IlovemycheapJames. I don't know I just get memorized when he comes in the gym. I've lost concentration on occasion watching him workin' it out. lol Today, I was watching my boo (stalker) out the coroner of my eye (stalker) and I was thinking that I know him from somewhere. Maybe we were lovers in my past life. (heehee)Really I was thinking either he went to the same High School as I or he used to work with my Baby's daddy. Well he must have felt me stalking him cause when I starting to run on the track our paths crossed and he asked me if I went to said High School and that is where we know each other. Our conversation was short I heard his voice and when he spoke my crush on him died:-( I guess it was the mystery of not knowing him and imagining soooo many things about him...whew

I have been working here for 1 year this month and I am not at all excited about it. I miss teaching and having vacations like the Christmas, Spring, & Summer breaks. Plus the people here suck!

~Mica~

posted by Mica @ 1:40 PM 2 comments

Baby Bond Grrl Duties

I've been on a blog laps. I haven't had much to blog about lately and I've been enjoying reading others' blogs. But I'm not fulfilling by Bond Grrl duties and I have to get back on track. I've been reading Solitaire's postings so that I can at least know (if not act on) my Bond Grrl duties. I have to admit that my closet is not clean & nothing else in the house for that matter. I haven't written down any goals either. & I realized that I don't have any goals. I mean I want to get out of debt and live comfortable financially but I don't have any goals to get there. I am practicing being "Invincible".

Catching up. ...I'm still on this 2 weeks to a smaller waist diet I've been on it since the first of May. I didn't measure my waist at the beginning so I don't know if it actually works. I do enjoy the cereal (fruit & yogurt) so I've just decided to eat it for breakfast and lunch. I figure it's better than B-King or Mickey-D's for lunch everyday. My babydoll is doing alright. She completed 3rd grade and has been promoted to 4th. She was so happy when she read that on her report card. I'm still planning on taking her to Atlanta for her birthday in July. One of my best friends live there and we haven't been to see her since 2002. My James is doing ok too. He's really humbled himself since his last incident with the law.

I have to get myself together if I wanna continue to be a success of the teachings of the wise Ms. Bond Grrl. wink wink

~Mica~

posted by Mica @ 2:27 PM 5 comments