What's up
Not much is going on in Mica's life right now. "Slow Motion" which is better than "No Motion" . I had a nice weekend. My James has two sons that he keeps every other weekend. We take the kids to basketball games or fun centers and things like that. So anyway that's what we did, had our "family weekend". Yesterday was nice after work, the woman's fellowship at my church had a mini teaching session on mentoring. A lady (whom I just adore!) came and facilitated to the group on ways to mentor young ladies of our church. It was very informative. Mrs. W., is a Minister, Facilitator, Motivational Speaker to name a few things that she does. She was my Solitaire for about 4 years when I was my Pastor's Administrative Assistant. She kept me going when I wanted to give up. She had so much good advise about taking care of my daughter, working, not judging me and helping me get out of a very, very, wrong relationship with a very wrong man and staying committed to the church. I love her to death. I get so emotional when when I think about her and how she helped my young dumb a-- out. Like I've mentioned before I've been blessed to have had so many beautiful, intelligent women in my life.
Which now has me thinking...Will I need a Solitaire and/or Mrs. W all the rest of my life?
I'm I going to grow with the knowledge I've gained from these women? Will it be wrong for me to want to keep these ladies in my life indefinitely? I have to think about this a little more...
Three Letter Word
My bond grrl teacher, Solitaire said that's she's trying a "30 ways in 30 days" exercise with her James to spice up her sex life. I told her that it sounded fun to me, maybe I'll try it too... Then it got me to thinking about something, the other day my James and best friend Ms. E were talking, and I don't know how they got on the subject but she told him that I was a "sex addict" he said he tried to clean it up and say that because my sign was Scorpio it's in me to like sex so much. The funny thing about it is, I've been told that before. If a person ask me my sign and I tell them Scorpio they (men) get excited and make sexual comments to me, such as "you're a freak". It doesn't bother me, I just take it as a joke. Laugh it off and deny it.
It's crazy because sometimes I feel that way. Addicted. Ms. E and I are always talking about it, the good and the bad. We compare notes without giving many embarrassing details about our sex lives. I never thought about being addicted to it, but the more I think about it I might be. But let me explain, I use the word "addicted" loosely. I'm not at an Eriq Benet level, (guy who cheated on Haley Berry) and like a person is to drugs. I just like it a lot. And, mainly with my James.
As for my James, I didn't think he noticed. I really try to be discrete about it when I'm with him. Trying not to lose all control when we are together:-) We've been together for almost 2 years and we haven't opened up to each other as I would like to, but I'm just going with the flow and letting him get more comfortable with his sexual side. I said "his" because I'm already comfortable with mine. (smile)
There's a song that Jamie Foxx has on his CD entitled "Three Letter Word" here's some of the lyrics:
Im startin' to believe, Something's wrong wit me,
Cause everyday, every night,
every hour, every minute
I'm thinkin' 'bout it
I can be at my job, in my car,
up in church And when I try to pray it off, it won't work ...
(Sex) All the time (Sex) On my mind
(Sex) Everywhere I go...
(Sex) It's stronger than any drug even love
S-E-X
LOL LOL LOL!!!!
Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder
This past Friday I had an issue with a co-worker telling other co-workers things about my work performance that wasn't true and potentially keeping me from advancing with the company. I really wanted to curse the B--ch out because her and a couple of other women are always "hate'in" on me about my age, the way I dress and act at work. They even went so far to say that I'm dating a man in my office, which I might add, is all of 60 & gross!! I think that I should tell all of them off. Mainly because they are taking my "kindness" for a "weakness" and by laughing it off (Solitaire told me to do that) and ignoring it the "chicks" are going to keep "picking" on me. I know! I sound like my 3rd grader!(smile)
So, Solitaire saved the lady Friday. I was going to "whip" her after work in the parking lot. That's the ghetto grrl in me! lol She said LAUGH. Laugh it off, she puts it
,"If someone where to say that you ate guinea pigs or that they caught you on a postcard doing the nasty with a donkey or something" what would you do? Would you get all "huffy" and "belligerent" and "defensive"? My guess (ok unless these sound close to home and you didn't want me to find out (smile)) is that you would just LAUGH them off. You'd smile, laugh, roll your eyes, say "man, can you BELIEVE that?" And you would be DONE giving energy to it. Because it would just be that crazy."
Solitaire thinks the women are jealous of my looks and intelligence. That might be true but I don't understand why. I mean I don't walk around the office like I'm a beauty queen or nothing and I think that all women especially women of color are beautiful. I have this conversation with my "James" all the time about women who he thinks are "not cute" or "unattractive", we go back and forth about many celebrities who are gorgeous to me and ugly to him. He said that I don't have good taste. I just see the beauty in everyone until they start acting ugly and then (like some of the women I work with) they look like "sole of my shoes" lol Well Ms. S, thank you for the compliments and the advice. As you can see I have a long way to go to get on your level as a bond grrl. Just don't stop working on me and I'm sure I make it.
20 WAYS TO MAINTAIN A HEALTHY LEVEL OF INSANITY
From 2001-2004 I taught 8th grade. It was one of the best jobs that I had. I'm thinking about going back to school to become a teacher. One of the students that I kept in contact with sent me this funny email.
*Thanks, Shay-Shay!*
1. AT LUNCH TIME, SIT IN YOUR PARKED CAR WITH SUNGLASSES ON AND POINT A HAIR DRYER AT PASSING CARS. SEE IF THEY SLOW DOWN.
2. PAGE YOURSELF OVER THE INTERCOM. DON'T DISGUISE YOUR VOICE.
3. EVERY TIME SOMEONE ASKS YOU TO DO SOMETHING, ASK IF THEY WANT FRIES WITH THAT.
4. PUT YOUR GARBAGE CAN ON YOUR DESK AND LABEL IT "IN BOX"
5. PUT DECAF IN THE COFFEE MAKER FOR 3 WEEKS. ONCE EVERYONE HAS GOTTEN OVER THEIR CAFFEINE ADDICTIONS, SWITCH TO ESPRESSO.
6. IN THE MEMO FIELD OF ALL YOUR CHECKS, WRITE "FOR SMUGGLING DIAMONDS".
7. FINISH ALL YOUR SENTENCES WITH "IN ACCORDANCE WITH THE PROPHECY."
8. DON'T USE ANY PUNCTUATION!
9. AS OFTEN AS POSSIBLE, SKIP RATHER THAN WALK.
10. ORDER DIET WATER WITH A SERIOUS FACE WHENEVER YOU GO OUT TO EAT.
11. SPECIFY THAT YOUR DRIVE-THROUGH ORDER IS "TO GO."
12. SING ALONG AT THE OPERA.
13. GO TO A POETRY RECITAL AND ASK WHY THE POEMS DON'T RHYME.
14. PUT MOSQUITO NETTING AROUND YOUR WORK AREA AND PLAY TROPICAL SOUNDS ALL DAY.
15. FIVE DAYS IN ADVANCE, TELL YOUR FRIENDS YOU CAN'T ATTEND THEIR PARTY BECAUSE YOU'RE NOT IN THE MOOD.
16. HAVE YOUR CO-WORKERS ADDRESS YOU BY YOUR WRESTLING NAME, ROCK BOTTOM.
17. WHEN THE MONEY COMES OUT THE ATM, SCREAM "I WON! I WON!"
18. WHEN LEAVING THE ZOO, START RUNNING TOWARDS THE PARKING LOT, YELLING "RUN FOR YOUR LIVES, THEY'RE LOOSE!!"
19. TELL YOUR CHILDREN OVER DINNER. "DUE TO THE ECONOMY, WE ARE GOING TO HAVE TO LET ONE OF YOU GO."
20. SHARE THIS MESSAGE WITH 5 FRIENDS .... IT'S CALLED THERAPY!
VENTING
I interviewed back in January for a higher job position with the company in a different department that I'm presently working for. I feel like the interview went well, I answered all the questions and asked a few questions to show my interest and knowledge of the job. I have all the qualifications that they are looking for, not all the experience but I do have all that the interviewer said she was looking for. I haven't heard back from them. I interviewed with three people and I sent them all excellent Thank you letters, I've left many voice-mail messages inquiring about the job and emailed two people to see what was up but, I haven't got an answer yet. I was told last week via email that it hasn't been filled but I wasn't told if I'm still considered as a candidate. Someone said that I should keep calling (bugging) them to show my interest but I don't think that's a good idea. So, here's my problem...
Last week sometime, I went into the break area and a group of ladies were sitting at the table talking about the job opening and while I was standing there waiting for the microwave one of the ladies said that they heard that someone in our office applied for it. (in this sarcastic voice) I didn't say anything to her about it because she probably was talking about me being that I'm the only one in whole office with a degree that qualifies. I didn't tell anyone that I went after the job and had an interview so I don't know how my co-worker would know. So I was thinking that maybe the people who interviewed me said something to my boss and in return she said something to them to keep me from the job. There is nothing she can say about me professionally because I do my job well! & I stay professional at all times (despite working with the most getto people I've ever seen!!) A lot of the ladies are jealous of me for reasons unknown to me and I think that she or somebody was just "playa hate'in me"! Or, I'm I being paranoid.
I don't know!! I'm all confused and depressed about it!! If I can get this job it will be the best thing for me financially. I'm so worth it and I know that I can be good at it. So why don't they hire me???!! I've prayed about it and I'm trying not to get discouraged but when will I FIND OUT???!!! That the part that really has me so paranoid! When Will They Let Me Know Something??!!
