1 Grrl's Quest:Being The Best Bond Grrl I Can Be

Flava of Love

1)Are you in a relationship or single?
In a relationship.

2) Are you happy with where you are?
Career-no, everything else –yes

3) When you meet the right person, do you fall fast?
Yes, I’m about sure I’m with the right person now and I did fall fast.

4) Have you ever had your heart broken?
Yes.

5) Would you ever take someone back if they cheated on you?
I really don't know. I’ve done it before when I was younger, but I’m would hope not since I am now older and a lil wiser.

6) Do you want children?
I have one, I don’t want any more.

7) How many?
I’m happy with the one I have and the two (future) step-kids

8) If somebody liked you right now, would you get with them?
Depending on the somebody. Denzel, yes; T. Hunter, yes; Method Man, yes.

9) Do you enjoy playing hard to get?
I don’t necessarily play, I am hard to get.

10) Do you believe love at first sight exists?
Definitely.

11) Are you romantic?
YES! I’m always trying to coming up with something romantic for my man.

12) Do you believe that you can change someone?
Yes, if they are willing to be changed.

13) If you could get married anywhere, where would you go?
A beautiful warm island.

14) Fuck buddies - good or bad?
Good, as long as both parties understand what that means.

15) Do you easily give in when you are arguing?
I think I do, just to get out of the argument. I hate to argue.

16) Do you have feelings for someone right now, whether they know or not?
Yes.

17) Have you ever wished you could have had someone but you messed up?
Yes, not because I messed up…

18) Have you broken a heart?
Unintentionally, yes.

19) What would happen if you came home and find another person in bed with your gf/bf?
Lose my mind! Depending how I feel about my bf at the moment I might start shooting or stabbing.

20) Would you ever fight somebody over your significant other?
Yeah. Only because I have. I was only 16!! But, now it depends on the situation and how the other woman was acting.

21) What would you say to all your ex's?
I hope all is well with you.

22) Do you feel some relationships are worth holding on to?
Definitely!

23) Who was the last person to kiss you?
Romantic kiss? Ro. Other wise my God ma-ma.

posted by Mica @ 4:08 PM 2 comments

6 Months: All I have to show for it is a baby belly!!

I've been going to the health club for 6 months now and all I have to show for it is a belly that looks like I'm about 3 months pregnant. I haven't lost any weight, but I was contributing that to maybe turning my fat into muscle. Although, I have noticed a lil' cut in my arms and legs my stomach is showing no progress. I must admit I haven't been doing any dieting with the exercise, I've been eating any and everything I can get in my mouth (that didn't come out right :0). So, since my James wont pay for me to get a tummy tuck and I can't afford to pay for one I guess I'm just going to have to do it the ol' fashion way. I'm on a diet, no more Mc D's fries; they got me in this mess in the 1st place. I really want to have legs and stomach like Mary J. Blige and arms and a back like Angela Bassett :-D

Starting MONDAY!

singing... Just Got Paid..Friday Nite..Party hunting.....
I don't know what my James is going to do since he doesn't drink any more (yeah right). I'm having me a drink!!!


Have a blessed, great & safe weekend!!!!


~Mica~

posted by Mica @ 3:23 PM 2 comments

ON A HAPPY NOTE: PUTTING MY FOOT DOWN!

I don’t know where to start. Last night I had a wonderful time in the Lords house!!! I can’t begin to tell how filled with the Holy Ghost I was. I’m a church go’er and I love the Lord and believe that Jesus died for my sins. I confess that I don’t attend Bible Study or Sunday School, but all of that is going to change now.

Last night was our church’s revival, and what a revival it was!!! We had an Elder out of Tennessee come and delivered the Word to us. He preached out of Joshua 10:20-25 “Putting Your Foot Down”. He preached that Joshua was the successor of Moses and God told him, “As I was with Moses, so I will be with thee: I will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.” There was a war that broke out and 5 kings’ armies came against Joshua. He fought them and won killing all of his enemies and having his captains put their “feet upon the necks” of the kings. Well, he preached a good Word, but he made some very profound statements that really “touched my soul”; He said that Joshua was getting in a little trouble and began to pray to God. He prayed a prayer that was never prayed before, and God answers prayers that have never been prayed. So while they were in battle the “sun stood still and the moon stayed, until the people had avenged themselves upon their enemies". The EARTH stood still!!! So that they could get rid of their enemies. He will do the same for you and me.

I’m saying that I have faith that God will help me defect my all my enemies. I just have to stay strong and have courage. Put my feet on the enemy. Whoa, I’m revived! That’s not all, the Pastor laid hands on me and I felt the Holy Ghost come thru me. It was wonderful!!

So, how did that sermon affect my life? Well, I’m so unhappy with my job. It’s mainly because of my co-worker. There are six women that are my enemies. They didn’t like me coming in the door and since then they’ve been telling lies and doing anything they can to get me fired or make me quit. My job performance is not lacking in any way, they just don’t like me because I don’t sit around gossiping about people and because I act and look professional. So, I have to destroy my enemies. I don’t literally mean do any bodily harm to them (although I don’t mind) but I have to work on me. Getting closer to God so that we can DESTORY all haters!!!

I hope this story makes sense to you. I'm not a good story teller:-)


~Mica~

posted by Mica @ 4:02 PM 2 comments

Getting Bond out of Trouble

This week is going by soooo slow!! It's killing me! I don't have an exciting weekend planned, I just want this week to end. I've been walking around with a pa...(that's what we call a pony tail for short hair) and I need my hair done. Looking a mess. I can't wait to see what my James is going to do this weekend considering what happened to him (us) this past one. Read about it later...

I'm still a baby bond grrl. I've printed Solitaire's exercises on being a bond grrl from her past postings and I'm studying them on my spare time. It's coming alone, just not as fast I would like it to.

(Side bar) I just went to my supervisor's desk to give her a report she asked for, and when I got there she's eating popcorn and reading a book. NOW this the same B--ch (good word just not lady like) told me that I shouldn't be reading books at my desk when I'm on down time because it doesn't look professional. I need a new job!! Cause I almost slapped her!

Anyway... like I was saying I'm looking forward to being an official bond grrl. Debt freee, happily married, with a daughter that's a very well known Fashion Designer (that's her dream not mine:-)))

I've being reading a lot of other people's blogs too. I think that's why I haven't been bloging lately. Some of these people write great stories about their everyday lives. And they are authors or aspiring to become one. I on the other hand am neither. I don't want to embarrass myself. (smile)

Now with me James. I broke up with him last Friday via e-mail. Crazy and childish I know. I'm not completely sure why I just read this one quote from another grrl's blog and just felt like it was talking to me. The quote: Never allow someone to be a priority when you are only an option to them.
I love it!! I just don't think it applied to he and I. So, he was pissed and we argued Saturday morning I didn't talk to him after that. Well, Saturday nite he went out with his buddies and had a few too many drinks, left the bar and got pulled over and arrested for OWI. How I found out...Sunday it took me forever to get up and get ready for church, I really wanted to go and pray about our relationship but I felt like the devil was fighting me to go. I got up and was pulling up in the church parking lot when my phone rang with a strange # on the caller id. I answered it and the man on the other line was talking all crazy and fast. I couldn't understand what he was saying so I was about to hang up, but then he said something about a tattoo that James has on his arm and that got my attention. He preceded to say he was in the county jail and needs me to come and get him!! I almost passed out :-o I didn't know what to do after that. I never knew anyone that I had to deal with in jail, I didn't know how to get him out. So I called the only person I knew personally that's been in this situation. My best friend's father he's been there done that :) He told me what to do and I got him out Sunday evening. Bond $2,000!!!His cash not mine!

Mind you we said some bad things to each other Saturday morning, but yet he calls me. Why because I'm his bond grrl:-))

So we are back together like nothing ever happened. I'm happy because I didn't know what I was going to do without my James. I don't think he will be taking a drink for a long time. He likes to have a drink or two on the weekends. What's he gonna do??? More importantly I'm really glad that no one got hurt!!

I told that long story because 1 I needed to tell someone and 2 Solitaire said that we (bond grrls) are there to BAIL our James out of trouble. She soo right about everything!!!


~Mica~

posted by Mica @ 2:30 PM 3 comments

Catching up

I just realized that I only write in my blog when something is wrong. I was going to post a couple of comments the other day when some things happened at work, and when I was upset with my James, but I decided not to. I really have to work on not complaining so much! I have so many great things going on in my life I should be posting them. I don't want my Bond Mamma to think that I’m just this almost 30 yr old grrl that can’t-get-right. I’m still working on being the Best Bond Grrl I Can Be. Still paying bills, raising my daughter, trying to get in better shape, and doing great being number 2. Oh! Most importantly getting a closer relationship with the Lord. (I’m going to list the top 20 great things about me and things going on in my life, at the end of my post.)

I have been in blog land though. I’ve read some of the most interesting blogs in the past few weeks. From authors, marines, artist and many more. They all have some very impressive lives, and it’s also comforting to read that they also have come across a bump or two in their lives and managed to keep moving on. That's inspiring. They also have nice looking blogs, with pictures, and music videos. I want to try something like that.

This weekend I’m going to touch everything in my house. Ms. Solitaire said that it’s time to get rid of all the things that aren’t in use and I don’t need. She said to simply touch EVERYTHING in your house from make-up to can goods. And if you don’t love it give it away. (I’m I right S.?) So this will probably take me 3-4 weekends, but I’m going to do it. I’m just scared that my house will be empty when I’m all done. (smile)


Mica’s Top 20 (not in any order)

1. I’m alive
2. Jesus loves me & forgives me
3. I have a beautiful, smart, healthy daughter
4. I have a roof over my head & food to eat
5. I have a job that helps me with # 2
6. I have a college degree (Accounting)
7. I have 3 best friends that I’ve known since I was 5yrs old
8. I’m the best friend that they have
9. I’m the best lover that my James has ever & will ever experience ;-)
10. I’ve seen a lot of my old classmates and I’m sooo skinner than them! I can’t wait till our 10 yr reunion
11. I have a very forgiving heart
12. I’m getting rid of that flab under my arms
13. My James has never (been caught) cheated on me
14. We’ve been in a relationship for 2yrs May 8th
15. Cellulite Sally is slowly but surely coming off my thighs
16. I’m a cutie
17. I can hold an intelligent conversation with anyone
18. I’ve been called sexy by some sexy men & women ;-0
19. My mom still takes care of me, and I also take care of her
20. I will be debt free in 5yrs


I could have wrote some more but I don’t want you to think I’m stuck-up :-)

~Mica~

posted by Mica @ 1:05 PM 1 comments